Below is a guest post from Brenna’s mom from Blessed by Brenna on how even if
Halloween is different with special needs, it is still okay:
Every Halloween, my brother and I would brainstorm about what we wanted to be –
and then my mom would break out her sewing machine. Each year, she sewed
these adorable, sometimes very elaborate costumes for us…sometimes even matching or
themed, like when my brother was a bumblebee and I was a flower.
It made Halloween so incredibly special for us, though I probably appreciate my
mom’s sewing efforts much more now as a mom myself. I realized early on in my
motherhood journey that handmade costumes just weren’t happening for us. I’m
continuing to learn where my skills and priorities lie, and I’m totally fine with that!
Bonus for me, though, my parents can hardly stand to get rid of anything…so who now
has many of those hand-made Halloween costumes? My kids!
That bee costume that my brother wore decades ago was given a second lease on life
when Connor wore it in 2010… and then Brenna wore it in 2014 .
It’s easy to put unnecessary expectations on ourselves as moms when the holidays
roll around, especially because there are so many awesome activities and traditions
and cute crafts that we could be doing. But could bedoesn’t equal should be.
Two years ago, Brenna was dairy-intolerant, and she wasn’t even eating by mouth.
It brought forth a whole new appreciation for celebrating holidays, even in the simplest
of ways. All I wanted that year was for her to get to devour a Reese’s cup at Halloween
and to sit around the table with us sampling the mashed potatoes at Thanksgiving.
Last year was the first year she was able to truly “participate” in all of the holiday
activities. It was freezing cold, and we were only able to trick or treat on our
little cul-de-sac. We were still getting settled from moving in and I didn’t do any sort
of Halloween activities with the kids. But who cares? We all had an amazing time
simply getting dressed up and snacking on some candy. I was so grateful that for
the first time, Brenna actually got to eat her treats with her brother.
Sometimes experiences are awesome simply because of how we choose to react to
them. We as parents can make practically any experience exciting and memorable,
just by being together and being excited.
I read a fantastic quote in Jen Hatmaker’s new book For the Love, where she wrote:
“If you worry about being a good parent, you probably are one.”
This year, Brenna gets to wear a mouse costume that I wore 30 years ago. 30! It’s
so fun seeing her scurry around (pun intended) in her little costume, tail dragging.
I may not be spending hours sewing every Halloween like my mom did (thanks Mom!!),
but I get to reap the benefits of my mom’s time and effort still.
No matter what you “accomplish” as a parent – whether your costumes are hand-made
or hand-me-downs, whether you plan an elaborate Halloween party or barely get a
pumpkin carved (that was us last year) – we’re all just doing our best in this parenting
thing. And it’s time we start celebrating that, instead of putting pressure on ourselves
or other parents. Take a minute this Halloween to tell another parent that
you notice how they’re #doingood How empowering would it be if, instead of sizing
each other up, we recognized each other’s efforts and celebrated this parenting journey
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