One of the first lessons a parent or guardian teaches a child is how to forgive. When there is an argument between siblings, a parent or guardian might say: “Say I’m sorry.”
In life we often have to forgive others even when we don’t feel like this.
Jesus calls us to forgive: “Then Peter came and said to Him, ‘Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?’ Jesus said to him, ‘I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.'” ~ Matthew 18:21-22 (New American Standard Bible; NASB).
What really is forgiveness?
Forgiveness is humbling ourselves by saying we are wrong. It is not placing blame on the other person or trying to get the other person back.
How many of you have held a grudge before? If you answered, “Yes”, to this question then you are not alone.
It is human to hold a grudge, but then comes another issue. You might use the excuse: “It is normal for me to hold a grudge, so it is okay.” However, it is never okay to hold a grudge.
You also might say: “Well, Jesus will just forgive me no matter what.” But in the Bible Jesus explains: “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” ~ Matthew 6:14-15 (New International Version; NIV)
In fact, it is a sin if you refuse to forgive someone. Pray for your enemies. It is not always easy to forgive, but it is better to forgive than to hold a grudge.
Next time you want to hold a grudge, remember that it is better to forgive.